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Elusive Salvation

Dear, I completely understand. There are people in my family who are anxious about whether or not some strain of (usually undiagnosed but all too real) dementia seen in a grandparent and an uncle or an aunt, and then there are tales told of great grands, etc. There is the dementia, and there is the depression, and on my family blueprint, it looks like a game of hopscotch. I cared for my grandmother through my early years of college, and it was hard not being able to guess whether or not she would know me when I came home from class each day, or what the reigning mood would be. But if we are playing with dolls, dear gringo, let us. That hopefully means someone who cares is still around to make us feel comfortable and happy. For those of us who chose not to have children, perhaps our worst fear is being broke and vulnerable, left at the mercy of others' children, or to the state. Something tells me that this will not happen to you. You'll get that property fixed up and you'll loll on your hammock, watching grandchildren play in the surf, while some lovely sunkissed little senor or senorita of your loins once removed brings Papa his next Tecate. And so the years will pass... But for now? For chrissake, gringo, you are younger than my husband! And for what it's worth, I will cherish the moments of lucidity my grandmother gave us at the end of a long battle with dementia, and when she passed on, she was holding a doll, soothing it, cradling it, stroking and welcoming life, taking it with her as she crossed over.
— June 19, 2010 4:35 p.m.

Elusive Salvation

12-steppers going around apologizing is annoying--AG, you and I have past agreed about people who do this--our issue is further with the even bigger "ID-GO" (patent pending) they end up with after acquiring Christ consciousness, with now the added assumption that everyone they apologize to has the duty to listen and learn. But this is worse than that, because there is the expectation that people should support this foolishness, while he lies about taking the opportunity to step up and use that footing to take care of himself. I can't go as far as Gringo, who appears to overrate Brizz's talents as a writer, because he would forgive him ANYTHING because he writes. This is apparently how JB got into such a mess, and I'm going to drop the politesse about it. JB often s***s out these columns; understandable--he's often out of his gourd. When I am admiring, it is because he really put something into them. Memories of childhood and the past are often gritty and lovely, though he is quickly achieving hackdom. Getting away with no apologies? Fine. Continuing the behaviors? Expected. Suckers might always be willing to foot his bills, so why not take advantage? Memories of recent past? Problem, because it is quite evident that these columns are full of self-serving, manufactured crap. Writing as though he is NOT a complete whining tool, and grandly, as though behaviors are somehow allowed him, because don't we know, he follows in the footsteps of many a great, whose ranks he shall join soon enough (as we are reminded every other month or so)? Sucks mightily, unwarranted, --and that's what I'm flailing at, but...also expected. I've just argued myself out of a position. Damn that existentialism...;)
— June 19, 2010 1:36 p.m.

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