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I think the misanthropy is also a big part of the cause, and resolving it, learning to love others as much as they you, would help your health, as well as your options for recovery. Of course, the burgeoning physical elephant in the room you don't mention--ceasing to drink is the first step. (If you cease to drink, you will become a better candidate for help--ways around not having insurance can be found). Fact is, they are not going to help a person whose only goal is to daily drink himself into the ground, to the extent that he has lost everything but the ability to beg or steal cash to get more alcohol. 1. You put yourself and your need to drink first, always. 2. You employ a used-tissue philosophy of friendship. You take--and even steal outright-- from those who give to you, over and over and over. Then you disappear, and make them worry, juuust long enough that they forget all you've done to them, and are anxious enough about you that what you did no longer matters. Then you show up again, and they help you again, right? Isn't that the way it goes? The way it has gone for nearly three decades now? The problem with these philosophies is that they run you down--faster than it runs down your friends, even. At the end, it is you alone who can take the steps necessary to stop being a burden on the system and on your friends. I truly hope you make the right decision, John. For you, and for your son, who doesn't deserve the consequences of any of your choices.
— April 7, 2010 4:03 p.m.

what some Canadian r saying about the Ann Coulter/Ontario visit

nan @6: "it does give one a feel for the underlying negative attitude Canada has about America in general...something we might need to think about as we have the only unguarded border with that many miles in distance in the world" Yeah, there is that, and unfort., it goes both ways. Just as Bush's illegal war mongering popularized anti-American sentiment everywhere, there has been an intensification of anti-Canadian sentiment among Americans fearing socialized medicine and higher taxes attendant to social reform. Canadians become the automatic scapegoat. Of course, as you and I know, there are a million other reasons, but this is just the latest. Not sure if it is here or there, but you do remember that my family is from Canada, right nan? I have a lot of love for Canada and Canadians--and my family hails from parts West, Central, and Eastern -- so imagine the differences that might have existed between them--they are all mostly americanized now and were never very political--politics are in my family seen as like religion--impolite to talk about or push on others (even the Easterners are a bit this way, due to influence of matriarchs from central Canada). All, most importantly, retain ethnic traditions--sucn as lovely French dishes, Mennonite dishes, and books on our histories, and memories ...always the memories passed along of how things used to be on the iceslicked prairies or in the frozen Gothic suburbs--I don't hold all of them, but we continue to share with each other from the store of common memory in our family, not to let my Nana's and her mother's and her mother's traditions and thoughts and loves die out...we can talk anytime ;)
— April 5, 2010 11:07 p.m.

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