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U-T Axes 34 to 40
Oh, no, say it isn't so! Burl Stiff is gone for good? I have been thinking that maybe they just gave him maybe a monthly, perhaps semi-monthly column, noooo!! Bell is the bishop of beige, Stiff is the pope of pomp. This is ghastly. I want to cancel, but I can't. I am curious to see how the cubs carry the torch.— June 18, 2010 6:25 p.m.
gather ye rosebuds while ye may
HAHAHAHAHA!!! Thanks, Joe. I needed a laugh!— June 18, 2010 8:37 a.m.
Day-by-day slog for a San Diego job
Sorry, muttly, perhaps your level of sophistication is what keeps us all hanging on your every word and your denying entry to our fine city to all outsiders could be a religion all its own. Where do I sign up? Dick's Last Resort?— June 17, 2010 7:04 p.m.
Love, The Art of Apology, and The Grace of Acceptance.
Aww, nan, well said!! We do make our own dreams. And I don't think this "Steve" is going anywhere soon!! The kitties won't let him. Best friends, yes, msjlee. The reference to the name "Steve" is just a coincidence, since your husband's name is Steve. I wrote a story about a particularly bad relationship and used the name "Steve" as an alias for him. I am glad there is a good Steve out there!!— June 17, 2010 3:11 p.m.
gather ye rosebuds while ye may
Ladies, the movie got four stars in today's paper. I wonder what Duncan thinks of it.— June 17, 2010 2:41 p.m.
Love, The Art of Apology, and The Grace of Acceptance.
Oh, and before I paint too rosy a picture, he has stood by my side throught the horrible loss of my father from cancer that ravaged him, my fertility problems that cost a small fortune and resulted in us being childless, his own parents aging which we are going through now, my sister's struggles with alcoholism, and a host of other things that we never looked at as hurdles, just as part of the package. I look at my marriage as the best thing that I could ever have hoped for. Okay, here is the word that keeps coming to mind. Gratitude.— June 17, 2010 2:29 p.m.
Love, The Art of Apology, and The Grace of Acceptance.
Married nine years, together as a couple 13 years. When we met, we were both working for the same company, both earning about the same amount of money, he owned his own place, I bought mine about six months later, I was 34 and he was 38. So we came into our relationship with little disparity. I think that was a huge help, because before my relationships tended to be one-sided and it was nice to meet someone who was my equal. Our families like one another, we have supported each other through job losses and changes, and we both have the same financial style, which is critical to a healthy relationship. Neither of us spends frivolously, we both paid cash for our cars after saving (neither of us drives a flashy car - me a ten year old BMW and him a ten year old Honda), we never had separate bank accounts, which I can tell you is an almost sure indication of impending doom to a relationship due to lack of trust, we both love animals, we both are responsible adults. We worked hard, bought a nice house together, and built a life that conjoined us. Most of all we really enjoy each other's company. We are by no means perfect, and we have had times where we annoy the hell out of each other. But there really are no deal breakers. We have discussed the biggies. It has been put out there - if ever either wants out of the relationship, out of respect for the other there will be no cheating. This has never been an issue, because we are still very much in love. My neighbor sees us all the time coming home from bike rides and he laughs at us - "oh, you two, like two peas in a pod". I know this is hard to believe, but it's true. I pinch myself for my good luck in finding this man. You've read my stories about the two before him. I knew what to look out for!!— June 17, 2010 2:20 p.m.
Army sergeant comes back to San Diego from Afghanistan
Yes, civility is nice, but what one deems "civility" could be construed as "political correctness" on the part of another. The expression of opinion is just that, and the chastising of the manner in which one express oneself borders on the tsk, tsk style of controlling a forum under the guise of "good manners". Sometimes certain comments make people angry or upset. To respond in an fashion honest to how you are feeling is genuine, and not "uncivilized". This is not a library. We can all run around and sometimes we can raise our voices, and outright vulgarity just to shock people aside, it is really no one's place other than the Reader's admin to tell us to "shush".— June 17, 2010 12:26 p.m.
Army sergeant comes back to San Diego from Afghanistan
Agreed. But once a point is brought up that may seem counter to the original story, a conversation has been opened and it is up to the reader to determine whether or not it is worth discussing.— June 17, 2010 11:30 a.m.
Love, The Art of Apology, and The Grace of Acceptance.
I guess my point is as I have matured, I pick and choose my battles more wisely. And my choice of husband. Thus the "easy" part of my marriage. I could make it harder. I just don't have any reasons to. We just don't really have much to fight about. It's really quite nice, because I have friends as well that complain bitterly about their marriages. I have no advice for them. They are determined to stay in a marriage that makes them unhappy and if that's what makes them tick, there is nothing I can say to change it. I guess we choose our mates based on our temperament, and on past relationships, because we have the experience to know what we can and cannot tolerate.— June 17, 2010 11:28 a.m.