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Formerly of NBC 7/39

Tara, as someone who has been both laid off and let go more than once, I feel for you deeply. I hope your next venture is onward and upward, and wish you the best.
— February 9, 2009 1:34 p.m.

Do Right

Thank you everybody for your thoughtful comments. I appreciate all of your opinions.
— February 6, 2009 9:43 a.m.

Lollipop Guild

Ha! Angel, that sentence is a gem. "If I am going to Hell I want to go drunk at the drag show." Here here, sister. I have my book club this Sunday, so I'll have to put off my drinking/drag debauchery for another holy day. ;)
— February 5, 2009 10:06 a.m.

Lollipop Guild

Thank you for the confidence in my ability to not F-up your 2-year old, snackycakes! ;)
— February 4, 2009 5:16 p.m.

Do Right

Fake anything is an unnatural and uncomfortable position for me to be in. I'm happy to know that you can relate, and I like that saying, thank you for sharing it.
— February 4, 2009 5:16 p.m.

Lollipop Guild

Damn, your intelligence is hot, Fred. Thank you for gracing the page with your eloquence and syntax. Rowr.
— February 4, 2009 8:04 a.m.

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That's great advice for children, refried: "Nobody knows except you, and what you think is right, and you don't have to listen to the adults." Regarding what I "actually" tell my nieces and nephews, I don't lay things out to torture them. If they ask questions, I give honest, thorough-but-simplified-for-a-child answers. I told my niece that I liked being an aunt so much, that I loved my nieces and nephews so much, that I didn't need any children of my own. My delivery isn't as harsh when I'm speaking to the kids, but the message is still coming from an honest place. I certainly don't want to traumatize them, which leads me to Luna's comment... I appreciate your thoughts, and can understand the decision you made to respect your sister and make things easier. Personally, I don't think children need to be a certain age before they can accept information. They glean much more from television by age 5 than we imagine. If kids can understand the concept of love (mommy loved daddy and married him, then we had you), then they can understand the concept of homosexuality (sometimes boys like boys and girls like girls, everyone is different, and you can like who you like). Same with religion. Some people believe in God, some don't. Mommy and Daddy believe in God, and this is why. I don't see how that's any more difficult than most of the complicated stories laid out in church (I was raised Catholic) on Sunday mornings.
— February 3, 2009 9:21 p.m.

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Got this great comment on my Facebook page: "We raised great spiritual, moral, ethical kids, partly because of "my non-religious, gay brother's" influence and partly because they were always bright and free enough to decide about their own godstuff without parental influence. Hugo, Grrrrrl!"
— February 3, 2009 5:15 p.m.

Lollipop Guild

For that, God bless America, Angel! And I mean that in the figurative, not literal sense. ;)
— February 3, 2009 4:20 p.m.

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Thank you Dulcinea! (great name) I happen to think boys look quiet dashing with a bit of eyeliner, especially if their eyes are as bright blue as my nephews. ;) My point in the story was that there are many different walks of life, not only the one in which one is indoctrinated, and I will always be honest with my nieces and nephews. And all children for that matter. So if anybody out there wants to protect their kids from the truth, you know what to do. Keep 'em away from me.
— February 3, 2009 4:19 p.m.

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