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Photography Is Not a Crime

My sister Jane has two young daughters. She thought there was nothing wrong with my take in this situation. So please, don't use the "only people with children can understand" line on me. I know too many people with kids; like any giant population, you can't generalize them so easily. Not every parent is paranoid.
— June 24, 2011 7:58 a.m.

Photography Is Not a Crime

I never claimed it was "right" or "wrong" to take a photograph of a kid in public, just that it's "legal." Certainly someone can find examples of things that are legal but, as one commenter said, not necessarily polite or well mannered. This piece was as much to inform parents as it was for me to vent about how irritating it is to encounter people who are oblivious to the fact that we are constantly being filmed and observed when we are in public and that, at least for now (until someone fights to change these laws), there's really nothing we can do about it. See Google Earth (which I swear is tracking me, and I'm slightly paranoid, which is why I disable my location settings on my phone). I could have just as easily stood farther away and used a zoom lens, and this guy wouldn't have been the wiser. Thanks for reading, and for the thoughtful comment! :)
— June 23, 2011 10:05 p.m.

iJack

Haha! I figured something as much. I forget that normal people have to worry about things like that. My entire family knows I'm a freak, and I fail to surprise them any more. Great time!
— June 23, 2011 5:38 p.m.

Terrible People

I could never have someone sort through my clutter, it's cathartic for me to do when I have the time. But the scrubbing? I don't scrub. Fortunately, I'm with someone who doesn't mind. In the past, I would pay friends or professionals to do the scrubbing for me. I have a dear friend who LOVES to scrub. In an obsessive-compulsive, clearing-of-the-head sort of way. She does what she wants and makes some money. Everyone wins! :)
— June 19, 2011 8:10 a.m.

Terrible People

Wilde is one of my all-time favorite writers. :)
— June 19, 2011 8:07 a.m.

Terrible People

I agree, it kills me when some Americans act like they grew up in a caste system. That person emptying your trash has a name, and a family, and favorite movies and pet peeves. We should never underestimate or denigrate people who are just as much a part (in many cases a more important part) of the community as everyone else. My dad taught me to respect everyone and treat them the same, regardless of their station in life. I'd much rather spend a day looking at photos of Lupita's recent wedding (that's her name) than spend a second passing that Dick in the hallway, let alone ride an elevator with him.
— June 16, 2011 11:43 a.m.

Photography Is Not a Crime

Handsome Dan, you're my hero. ;)
— June 11, 2011 9:37 p.m.

Photography Is Not a Crime

Side note, have fun at Ink n Iron! I was hoping to go to that, I know many people who are participating. I wouldn't have asked anyone's permission for photos, though. Especially not 100,000 times. At public festivals, people expect cameras. :)
— June 11, 2011 4:22 p.m.

Photography Is Not a Crime

You're doing way more work than necessary, then. If it makes you feel good, rock on with your bad self. As long as you realize you're doing it because you "want" to, and not because you "have" to. :)
— June 11, 2011 4:14 p.m.

Photography Is Not a Crime

"Wrong and vulgar?" I'm assuming you don't feel the same way about someone taking a picture of a cute kitten when its owner isn't looking. It's amazing how protective parents always assume prurience. We are a psychotically sex-obsessed society. So basically, it's absolutely okay for people to infringe my legal rights as a citizen just because they think I might be a pervert. Huh.
— June 11, 2011 3:16 p.m.

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