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Realism Is Overrated

Author: Elizabeth Salaam

Neighborhood: City Heights

Age: 35

Occupation: Writer/program coordinator

My husband and I rent a condo in City Heights. We have 812 square feet, two bedrooms, and a bath and a half to share between ourselves and our two children. The baby sleeps in the closet. ­It’s time to expand, and it has been for a long ­time.

Back before the recession sucked the life out of our financial stability, I used to drag my husband around on walks through South Park and Golden Hill to look at houses and daydream about owning one. ­We’d wander from street to street commenting on this Craftsman bungalow or that Spanish-style stucco, and every time we saw one for sale ­I’d say, ­“Let’s get ­it!”

­He’d chuckle sarcastically and say, “Sure, honey. Why ­don’t I just cut a check right ­now?”

“Seriously,” ­I’d say. ­“It’s got everything. A yard, four bedrooms, two full baths. And look how cute it is. I bet the neighbors are really ­nice.”

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“Uh, Lizzie? Did you look at the ­price?”

“Yeah, six hundred thousand. Why? Is that ­high?”

­He’d shake his head and tell me that if I was serious about buying a house, we needed to take our walks in City ­Heights.

And that was back when we both had ­jobs.

My husband is a realist and a planner — a by-the-books kind of guy. ­I’m the kind of girl who will dip into next ­month’s rent in order to make a quick trip to New York because my best friend needs me. My personal philosophy is that it will all work out in the end. ­There’s no place for such a philosophy in this ­economy.

I understand this, and therefore ­I’ve adopted a more realistic attitude and begun checking out houses in City Heights. There is certainly no shortage of them. I think every third house is for rent or for sale. Some of them are even in a price range that would lower our monthly expenses. The problem is that the fine print often reads something like: “4 bed, 2 bath, 350 sq ­ft.”

The biggest problem with our current home is that ­it’s tight and getting tighter. But I love the canyon views, and the neighbors have grown on me. For a while there I had my hopes set on our landlord selling our place to us dirt cheap and then the place next door selling for dirt cheap, too, so we could knock down the wall between them and put in some wood floors in place of this dusty old ­carpeting.

My husband rolls his eyes whenever I remind him of that possibility. In fact, these days he rolls his eyes whenever I bring up buying a home at all. Ever the realist, he reminds me that ­it’s harder than ever to get a loan these days, especially with just one income. (I’m home with the baby, and in this economy ­there’s just no telling.) I know he wishes ­I’d be more of a realist myself. But you know what? I gotta be ­me.

My most recent fantasy is purchasing the house across the street. ­It’s right smack between my two favorite neighbors: Mr. Super-Extra Friendly and the Do-It-Yourself Guy (­who’s not so baby-faced with a full beard). It really ­can’t get more perfect. As a two and one, it ought to be in our price range, even though the square footage is more than what we have now. Plus it has a huge yard and plenty of space to build another bedroom or two, another bathroom or two, and maybe even expand the ­kitchen.

Imagine. Our 11-year-old ­wouldn’t have to switch schools, and the baby would grow up to be a City Heights ­native.

The catch is that even though the house is empty and has been for a long time, ­it’s not actually for sale. I see that as a plus. It means that no one else can snatch it up while I track down the owners and feel them ­out.

My husband told me not to get my hopes up because ­there’s probably a reason ­it’s not on the market, and even if they would sell it at a price we could afford, ­there’s probably a reason they ­haven’t done so yet. I commend him for his persistence in trying to get me to think the way he does. But ­I’m holding on to the belief that ­it’ll all work out in the end. Even in this ­economy.

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Neighborhood: City Heights

Age: 35

Occupation: Writer/program coordinator

My husband and I rent a condo in City Heights. We have 812 square feet, two bedrooms, and a bath and a half to share between ourselves and our two children. The baby sleeps in the closet. ­It’s time to expand, and it has been for a long ­time.

Back before the recession sucked the life out of our financial stability, I used to drag my husband around on walks through South Park and Golden Hill to look at houses and daydream about owning one. ­We’d wander from street to street commenting on this Craftsman bungalow or that Spanish-style stucco, and every time we saw one for sale ­I’d say, ­“Let’s get ­it!”

­He’d chuckle sarcastically and say, “Sure, honey. Why ­don’t I just cut a check right ­now?”

“Seriously,” ­I’d say. ­“It’s got everything. A yard, four bedrooms, two full baths. And look how cute it is. I bet the neighbors are really ­nice.”

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“Uh, Lizzie? Did you look at the ­price?”

“Yeah, six hundred thousand. Why? Is that ­high?”

­He’d shake his head and tell me that if I was serious about buying a house, we needed to take our walks in City ­Heights.

And that was back when we both had ­jobs.

My husband is a realist and a planner — a by-the-books kind of guy. ­I’m the kind of girl who will dip into next ­month’s rent in order to make a quick trip to New York because my best friend needs me. My personal philosophy is that it will all work out in the end. ­There’s no place for such a philosophy in this ­economy.

I understand this, and therefore ­I’ve adopted a more realistic attitude and begun checking out houses in City Heights. There is certainly no shortage of them. I think every third house is for rent or for sale. Some of them are even in a price range that would lower our monthly expenses. The problem is that the fine print often reads something like: “4 bed, 2 bath, 350 sq ­ft.”

The biggest problem with our current home is that ­it’s tight and getting tighter. But I love the canyon views, and the neighbors have grown on me. For a while there I had my hopes set on our landlord selling our place to us dirt cheap and then the place next door selling for dirt cheap, too, so we could knock down the wall between them and put in some wood floors in place of this dusty old ­carpeting.

My husband rolls his eyes whenever I remind him of that possibility. In fact, these days he rolls his eyes whenever I bring up buying a home at all. Ever the realist, he reminds me that ­it’s harder than ever to get a loan these days, especially with just one income. (I’m home with the baby, and in this economy ­there’s just no telling.) I know he wishes ­I’d be more of a realist myself. But you know what? I gotta be ­me.

My most recent fantasy is purchasing the house across the street. ­It’s right smack between my two favorite neighbors: Mr. Super-Extra Friendly and the Do-It-Yourself Guy (­who’s not so baby-faced with a full beard). It really ­can’t get more perfect. As a two and one, it ought to be in our price range, even though the square footage is more than what we have now. Plus it has a huge yard and plenty of space to build another bedroom or two, another bathroom or two, and maybe even expand the ­kitchen.

Imagine. Our 11-year-old ­wouldn’t have to switch schools, and the baby would grow up to be a City Heights ­native.

The catch is that even though the house is empty and has been for a long time, ­it’s not actually for sale. I see that as a plus. It means that no one else can snatch it up while I track down the owners and feel them ­out.

My husband told me not to get my hopes up because ­there’s probably a reason ­it’s not on the market, and even if they would sell it at a price we could afford, ­there’s probably a reason they ­haven’t done so yet. I commend him for his persistence in trying to get me to think the way he does. But ­I’m holding on to the belief that ­it’ll all work out in the end. Even in this ­economy.

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